At the moment, I have 3 children.... ages 19, 20, 21.
My point to the post is that if a child is going to be using the internet, they are going to be monitored, which would mean logging their key strokes. I'm not saying that a parent must stand there and watch their children while they're online, but they should be aware that children do stray away from parental advise... Even grown people stray away from their parents advise, so I know the children would need that extra monitoring.
As long as you're a minor, and as long as you're a minor living under your parents roof, you can not make your own decision of doing right or wrong. You only make the decision of doing wrong by doing what you're told not to do. Children aren't in any position to say "Well, if I mess up it's on me
." That can be done by the child while not in the presence of their parents, like... in school.... walking to the store, malls... coming home from school... going to the movies with friends etc..... when the parents aren't around. But when you're home, that's where your wisdom comes from,,, your parents only. No one in the streets will care for you like your parents do and they surely won't be there to help you out like your parents will, and do.
Children get all the freedom in the world now,, especially since the Internet came around, because many parents don't monitor them while they're online, and as far as I'm concerned on that matter, it just like letting your child wander off to a far off place and you not caring.
I know you children want more freedom and privacy you think you deserve, but I think you get your fair share when you're able to sleep in your bed at night, with your door closed, and use the bathroom, with the door closed. You're not being monitored and you have all the privacy you need.
And because you haven't done anything to warrant your parent to have to monitor you, don't think for a second that your parents are not to act like parents. They care.. and if a child understands that their parents care and love them very much, a child should mature enough to say "Yeah.... my parents love me very much, and I understand why they're being that way.
Then you have the issue of something going wrong with your computer, and when you confront the child about it, they will either tell you that they didn't do it, or they forgot to tell you that they did it. Or how about a friend that I know... and the child accidently deleted some Windows files, causing the computer to not load up again.
But children are more vulnerable than their parents, and it's easy to get children to do things that the child doesn't realize what they're actually doing. I know a child wouldn't want to come home to find out that someone has broken into their home and done some harm to their family members. But if they can only realize that they gave out their personal information to a stranger... and possibly a neighbor too, they would have a different out take on this monitoring of the internet usage.
If a parent has a job working on computers all day long to support the family, and they are monitored too on their work computers, what makes you think that a child shouldn't be monitored.. on his home computer?
To be honest with you?.... I think it was the mistake of the lifetime for parents to even let their minor children surf on the Internet in the beginning. But since they do, the children are trying to take it a step further, and that is now they don't want to be monitored either.
You can ask my children yourself..... never in their minor
ages of their lives have I ever allowed, nor let them get on the internet... not once. I let them play games and I've done many things for them, but they have never in their lives surfed on the Internet under my watch.... And I've been online since 1988 or 1989. And that's because I know how the internet/chat rooms was/is, and how easy it is for a child to make a mistake...... shooot, just look around here, for example, you have many grown people that can't even control their own computers, because of whatever fault of their own, and do you think those same people should be having their children exposed to their incompetence? on the Internet? No... not really.
And lastly, another reason I never let my children (during their minor years) surf, nor go online was because of what I see now:no#1.
Sad to say, but the children of today have been dumbed down by thinking that the Internet is their answer to them becoming grown.no#2.
children of today can no longer do arithmetic with a paper and pencil, all because society dumbed them down, and told them how easy and better the computers are.. and the children still believe it.no#3.
Schools now allow children to use calculators. Many children aren't able to think, nor do math on their own any more. But those same children know all there is to know about surfing online.no#4.
Children are exposed to too many grown people that fill their heads with the wrong things, and the children take it and run with it too.... and then the parents are wondering why their child is being that way. Influence from a grown person. A child?.. that's different than a grown person.no#5.
Children's reading and understanding/comprehension level have dropped to an all time low now, since they're able to surf online.... and less and less children read books anymore.no#6.
Most children born in the 1980's and up have never heard of an 8-track player.. have never saw, nor used a television where you have to manually turn the channels to get to the UHF/VHF channels.....have never heard of the Vietnam War, the Civil War, .... and.... cannot name the very 1st president of the United States.... and let alone... name the rest of them... in order.no#7.
Children's spelling has become so low, many children can't even spell dictionary
. It's amazing. Many common words they don't even know the meaning to them.
I can go on and on and on about this.... but these are some of the reasons why children need to be monitored while being on the Internet. They know not of the past at all, but are stuck on today and tomorrow (not that there's anything wrong with that)... but they don't use the internet to research useful information.
How many children do you think will tell their parents after getting off the Internet that they've learned something? Not many... and that's because the Internet is a way for children to escape reality, and parents allow it. I bet all the children can tell everything in the world about uTube, chat rooms, MySpace, and a host of other mediums out there that are dumbing down people, and especially the children.
since the internet, there has been more killings, drug usage, amongst the children of the US and other parts of the world... but mainly the US... all due to parents not monitoring them while they're online. And guess what?..... it's getting worse every day.
Because of the Internet, you now have children driving cars known as (ghost riding) or something like that. Children are exposed to the kinds of crap that will lead them down a deadly path, and parents have every right to do what they can do to minimize it.
If any child has children when they get older, watch how their attitudes will change, just to protect their children. And although the attitude towards things can change and be your own decision to make while you're still a minor, your actions aren't, as long as you're living under your parents roof.
Again, thats my take on this.
Edited by Walkman, 02 March 2007 - 09:46 AM.