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Why do you think some girls can't find a "good guy"?


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#1 Alunny

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Posted 29 April 2018 - 08:46 PM

I'm writing a blog about girls who complain online they can never find a nice guy (because for some reason seeing those posts really makes my blood boil LOL). For the mostpart I have only found women who have been in not so great or downright abusive relationships, or women who are a little but trashy to put it nicely. I was hoping for some input from women who aren't like that and also men because from what I've seen so far the reasons seem to be:

 

1. Moving too fast....jumping into a relationship before knowing the person (we all are on our best behaviour at the start ;))

 

2. You're looking in the wrong places....I'm not saying you won't find a nice guy in a bar or casino or club, but he's probably there for a special occasion or event. He very likely doesn't have a special drink or live there unless it's connected to him in some other way, such as through family or work. Or maybe he is! But I am saying the odds are not in your favour.

 

3. Ignoring red flags because you really want this person to be the nice guy. A lot of women make excuses and brush things off and then wonder how they got messed up with such a not nice guy...and this ties into number 1 as well.

 

Would really love to hear more opinions and some conversation on mine so far as well :D. As for men please feel free to give me both your perspective on males struggling to find nice girls and females also. And if you're into the same sex feel free to include your perspective also, I am sure that will also have some really great eye openers I have not considered.



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#2 mjd420nova

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Posted 01 May 2018 - 11:09 PM

We, all of us, male female or somewhere in between, are a product of our genes and our parents and the way you were raised.  Attitudes are built and nurtured through childhood and can become deeply seated far into middle life and beyond.  



#3 Alunny

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Posted 02 May 2018 - 05:40 AM

So are you saying good guys don't exist because their parents screwed them up or some women can't find them because their parents screwed them up...?

 

Can't tell if you're saying they have a bad attitude towards finding men that their parents taught them or men have bad attitudes towards women because that's what their parents taught them?



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Posted 03 May 2018 - 11:56 AM

"As for men please feel free to give me both your perspective on males struggling to find nice girls and females also."

Just my own little 2¢ for whatever it may/may not be worth.

My wife and I met when we were 40. Neither of us had been married. We're both considered intelligent, good looking, fun loving and nice people, yet have a past of relationships and struggles trying to find the right one. We both eventually reached a point where we stopped looking, and were comfortable with ourselves. Then we met. 

I kissed a lot of frogs before finding a princess. I also kissed a few that were absolutely a princess, but I was meant to be their frog. :)

We're now 67 and quite happy. In a nutshell: You attract what you're ready for.
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Posted 03 May 2018 - 03:36 PM

Two bits, when young I think you've this perfect for all ! """""""""

 

Ignoring red flags because you really want this person to be the nice guy. A lot of women make excuses and brush things off and then wonder how they got messed up with such a not nice guy.

""""""'''''''

 

Short story, in a band, I knew of this older celebrity professional writer singer pianist that we pulled a crappy talking to her to get a gig at some fancy place AAAAAAnd anyway I was floored when she had later said of one of our rock and roll guitar guys that he was a true snake a real viper that one.  HA! I didn't see it, he was just a decent guitarist, beit all the women like him where-ever we played, but that older artist knew, she said it was hard even to be near it made her skin crawl.

So, ....  some can see, and other's can not even if their life depended on it like my little sis oh oh well was thinking I shouldn't have said that well hooey I don't care would say in a room with her OOOOOOOKAY! then ha! Laterzzz things to do ta-taH!

 

edit, edited and really messed up the spelling of hooey!


Edited by PerspectiveObjective, 03 May 2018 - 03:38 PM.

Oh those are really nice, where`d you get them done at? YOUR NAILS SILLY! Banter/Wit is a primary member requirement to colossal project solution.  Not to toot my horn......          (                (        (       (     :trumpet: but, who else will!? teeehehehehehheeee!~~~8 : P Additionally::: "Do, or do not. There is no try." - Yoga


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Posted 27 June 2018 - 02:52 PM

Lastly to conclude, some are not looking for a good guy and I quote "ooooo you get that plastic girl" && " take him for a ride girlfriend etc. etc. etc."  As in hunting/gold-digging and only after money.


Oh those are really nice, where`d you get them done at? YOUR NAILS SILLY! Banter/Wit is a primary member requirement to colossal project solution.  Not to toot my horn......          (                (        (       (     :trumpet: but, who else will!? teeehehehehehheeee!~~~8 : P Additionally::: "Do, or do not. There is no try." - Yoga


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Posted 28 June 2018 - 11:34 AM

[Alunny, post # 1]

Moving too fast....jumping into a relationship before knowing the person (we all are on our best behaviour at the start.

 

 

This seems to be the norm for today's generation.

People who are in a hurry to jump into a relationship would make me run away.

 

Takes a lot longer to get your life back together than it does to screw your life up.

Take your time and don't be stupid exercise them thar grey cells use your brain.


Edited by The-Toolman, 28 June 2018 - 01:15 PM.

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Posted 18 July 2018 - 04:06 PM

I was fifteen in 1949. Dancing was all the rage, so I went to classes. I found that I had an aptitude for it and became a teacher. In the dancing world there were many women that would give anything for a man who could dance well. I was a short thickset chap, but this didn't deter the women. I'm afraid it all went to my head, and I went sex mad. I had several women "on the go" many times. I grew up in my fifties and settled down. All this had nothing to do with my upbringing. My mother and father were loyal to each other, power corrupting??



#9 PerspectiveObjective

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Posted 22 July 2018 - 09:16 AM

Another bit or two kind of shocking but I guess it might be then norm in some places on this rock, was down to visit an Auntie and met a young giant woman well she was kind of a girl actually it seemed ANYWAY!!!!!!.. that mentions her goal was to have some kids go on wellfare and apply for disability right away because her mama did so well.


Oh those are really nice, where`d you get them done at? YOUR NAILS SILLY! Banter/Wit is a primary member requirement to colossal project solution.  Not to toot my horn......          (                (        (       (     :trumpet: but, who else will!? teeehehehehehheeee!~~~8 : P Additionally::: "Do, or do not. There is no try." - Yoga


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Posted 22 July 2018 - 07:27 PM

LOL who needs men/women to be happy anyway, being single isn't all that bad. :thumbup2: 



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Posted 23 July 2018 - 04:55 PM

some error , not allowed to quote.  NICE not a biggy obviously super good reasons for it.

QUOTE:::::  """  n to be happy anyway, being single isn't all that bad. :thumbup2:   """"

Has my vote and its truly a privilege in some places on this rock.

In that I mean when one gets hurt, they don't need anyone because they've a pile in their purse /wallet of medical just like those credit cards... looks Like a Christmas tree I've seen them and of course those are the ones in for every little nothing and can tell you there heart rate latest cholesterol on and on and on, you know the one's that don't need it if they'd hangnails or couldn't!!!! get their nails done they would just die.

Sadly as some know, that's not the case for a lot of people. 

 

I still agree wholeheartedly nothing wrong at all being single especially if you've a lab mission or such in life to get accomplished, well -- anything for that matter WOOHOO!  My four bits and I'm stickin to it!


Oh those are really nice, where`d you get them done at? YOUR NAILS SILLY! Banter/Wit is a primary member requirement to colossal project solution.  Not to toot my horn......          (                (        (       (     :trumpet: but, who else will!? teeehehehehehheeee!~~~8 : P Additionally::: "Do, or do not. There is no try." - Yoga


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Posted 25 July 2018 - 09:26 AM

Why do girls "find" guys in the first place? But to answer your question, I think they're looking in the wrong place. Girls go to clubs and parties to find a decent man, but that's less likely to happen. Guys who go to these places want to have fun, and I don't think meeting a girl who wants to get serious is their idea of fun.



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Posted 27 July 2018 - 03:15 PM

@ crosssection

Quote: I think they're looking in the wrong place. Girls go to clubs and parties to find a decent man, but that's less likely to happen. Guys who go to these places want to have fun, and I don't think meeting a girl who wants to get serious is their idea of fun.

Agreed, maybe try the library.
 






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