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Posted 16 May 2017 - 05:36 PM
Posted 20 May 2017 - 04:37 AM
I was thinking: "What!? That is unbelieveable!".
Boy, this really set me off for some reason.
Welcome to adulthood.
As we get older people we grew up around create lives of their own.
Go to college and get an education and a good job and think about creating a life of your own and perhaps start a family.
However corny it may sound it's not a bad thing.
I'm grumpy because I can be not because I'm old.
The world is what you make of it, if it doesn't fit, you make alterations.
Under certain circumstances, profanity provides a relief denied even to prayer. (Mark Twain)
Posted 20 May 2017 - 09:57 AM
THAT"S LIFE!! Been there, done that. Don't fall into the trap of doing something just because everybody else does. Choose your own path. More schooling maybe the answer, broaden your horizons and find a skill you're good at and enjoy so you can build those skills and become a valuable member of your community. Working at a job you enjoy will make for even more gains in the rest of your life. Good Luck.
Posted 20 May 2017 - 12:24 PM
JOQ: Oh, darlin', you ain't seen nothin' yet!!
I'm not discounting this realization, but am speaking the truth. What's funny is, to this very day, my 25th birthday (now 30 years in the rearview mirror of time) was the worst one I ever had. That was the day I was convinced that because my life trajectory wasn't what I had wanted/predicted and also wasn't what others seemed to want that I was on the start of a very long, downhill ride.
Well, a lot of that perspective was the direct result of caring far too much about what others wanted and from placing not only unrealistic expectations, but ones not truly congruent with my own wants, on to myself and failing to meet them.
When I was in undergraduate school between the ages of 18 and 22 my closest friends were a group of much older (remember, this is relative to my age then) students in their mid-30s through late 30s. One had married a man about 15 years her senior and I will never forget her stating his observation about his own life, "I only just started feeling really comfortable in my own skin after I turned 50." I've lived a very similar experience, but perhaps started that slide into real and complete comfort in my own skin in my 40s.
mjd420nova has given you some very good advice. One of the worst things I ever did was to try to please everyone but myself, and not with trivial aspects of my life. One should never set out to intentionally hurt those one holds dear, but one should also not subjugate one's own central desires that come from a place of either knowing oneself or at least having a strong desire to try something in the pursuit of knowing oneself better in order to make someone else happy.
Brian AKA Bri the Tech Guy (website in my user profile) - Windows 10 Home, 64-Bit, Version 1803, Build 17134
Memory is a crazy woman that hoards rags and throws away food.
~ Austin O'Malley
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