that was every box that was checked I didnt think you wanted a list of the ones that were not checked.
Actually, MSCONFIG was not designed as a tool to disable stuff on your computer permanently. It was designed to help diagnose problems. Leaving items unchecked can lead to instability of your system. However, that's not necessarily the reason you're having problems now. But Microsoft recommends that you do not use it for that.
When you're finished diagnosing your computer with MSCONFIG, you should re-enable everything; uninstall programs you no longer want, or remove them from MSCONFIG so that they do not start up. One way to do this is a registry edit, but the easier way is to use Spybot Search and Destroy - it has an Advanced mode and you can use that to remove items from MSCONFIG. However, you should make sure you know what you're doing. You wouldn't want to disable an antivirus, for example, or a necessary system service.
One thing you might do is to disable KB891711 temporarily and see if that helps. Although this patch cures a vulnerability, it has also caused problems with some machines. If it turns out that it helps stabilize your machine, you can re-enable it, then go to the control panel and Add/Remove Programs and uninstall it. If it makes no difference, leave it there, enabled.
Windows ME is a pathetically unstable system. I have a couple of computers with it, and the one I leave running a lot crashes just about every day. I restart it once a day, and it often won't even shut down because it's crashed again. It might be more stable if I re-installed it from scratch, but I've done that on another computer and it hasn't been much better. Since the operating system was not greeted with any enthusiasm, it has never been well-supported by Microsoft, probably because it's hopeless. Windows 98 can become unstable, too, but I think it was more stable than ME.
It is normal to be able to defrag and run Scandisk only in Safe Mode - in fact, that's a good way to do it. In Real Mode, there are too many background processes, which cause problems with those tools. Both Scandisk and Defrag will keep starting over.