Spectorsoft is a clandestine keylogger used for surveilance purposes and may not even show up while using normal aps for identifying and removing software.
It seems he has been spying on you! Not very nice!, and it may actually have been illegal!
The following is from Spectorsoft's page:
Removing the Client
Tasks in this section:
> Remote Removal
> Local Removal
Remove the Client software from a monitored computer either remotely from the Control Center or locally from the Client computer.
Remotely - There are two methods to remotely (from the Control Center) remove the Spector Client. What method is used depends if the Manage Computers view is unable to provide remote administration capabilities necessary to perform the remote Client removal (non-integrated mode). If you were unable to remotely install the Client with the Control Center or manually ran the install file on the computer to complete the install of the Client.
Manually - Use the manual (from the Client computer) if remote access to the Spector Client is unavailable. Reasons for this include:
The Control Center has been removed from the network.
The Client computer is no longer connected to the network.
Network changes have made the Control Center unable to communicate with the Client.
To Remotely Remove Spector Client
Method 1 - This is the suggested method for removing the Client software.
From the Control Center Manage Computers view, select the Client computer from the right pane.
From the Action Menu, select All Tasks and then Uninstall Spector…
right click on computer, select All Tasks and then Uninstall Spector….
From the Control Center Configure Computers view, select the Client computer from the right pane.
From the Action Menu, select All Tasks and then Uninstall.
right click on computer, select All Tasks and then Uninstall.
To Run the Spuninst Program Manually
Copy the spuninst.exe program from the Control Center computer Spector CNE program folder (c:\Program Files\SpectorSoft\Spector CNE\spuninst.exe) to a medium accessible by the Client (network drive, CD, pin drive, etc.).
From the local Client computer, run the spuninst.exe program using either of the following two methods:
From a command line using parameters; Spuninst.exe /s<serial number> /p<password>
/s – serial number of Spector CNE used to install Client (Required)
/p – password configured for the Spector Client install (Required if a password was configured)
/r - computer will NOT reboot (Optional)
/q - removal runs in quiet mode with no user prompts required (Optional)
File Location:\spuninst /s6433AB0012439850/password /q
From the GUI
Run spuninst.exe. A GUI is displayed.
In the dialog box, enter the serial number and password (if used) and then click OK.
Click OK to reboot the computer.http://www.spectorsoft.com/products/specto...elp/cne_094.htm
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to do at least a DOD wipe of the hard disk (if not even more), and do a fresh installation of Windows afterwards. Your fiancee may have installed other keyloggers of commercial spyware too, and I wouldn't trust the computer without completely wiping the disk to at least DOD specs or replacing the hard drive itself and installing a fresh copy of the op system.
After you do whatever you decide to do, replace Windows firewall with a two way firewall like ZoneAlarm or Sygate so you will be notified when any unauthorized ap tries to send over the internet.