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Why Parents Must Mind Myspace


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#1 Scarlett

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Posted 30 January 2006 - 10:08 AM

Posting too much information on social networking sites may be dangerous.
By Rob Stafford
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Updated: 10:02 p.m. ET Jan. 27, 2006
This report aired Dateline Friday, Jan. 27, 9 p.m.

You may never have heard of MySpace.com, but it's a safe bet, your kids have.
It's a social networking sites - sort of a cyber combination of a yearbook, personal diary and social club. The biggest of them is MySpace.com. With more than 50 million members, its one of the fastest growing Web sites in the country.



~ Sites such as MySpace.com are fast becoming a growing threat to our childrens online saftey. Others include, Xanga.com, LiveJournal.com and facebook.com. The age requirements for My Space.com for instance is set at 14. The age limit should be set at 18, but it does not matter much, because kids LIE about their age in order to sign up. Personally I would never consider allowing a child of mine to create a blog on My Space. Kids post personal content of their own, in an attempt to draw attention to themselves. The goal is for their blog to be one of the most popular ones. The more comments, and so called "friends" one has at My Space, the more popular one will become. And we all know popularity among ones peers has always been sought after by kids. Responding to blog comments, could then lead to lengthy correspondence with what may even be an online predator.

All in all, a sad, sad situation indeed.
Parents please step up to your responsibility as a parent, and monitor your childrens online activities!
Before it is to late ~ Scarlett

Complete MSNBC Article
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Posted 30 January 2006 - 10:32 AM

That is why I run VNC and monitor my kids while online. They can have privacy when they turn 18 and get there own place. I also am looking into keyloggering thier computers so I can go to thier "Personal" space on these websites.
Parential apathy is the greatest harm. I find some parents use the computer as an electronic baby sitter.
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Posted 30 January 2006 - 12:16 PM

acklan, I agree with you 100%, on all points. And I'd like to address one point in particular.

Parential apathy is the greatest harm. I find some parents use the computer as an electronic baby sitter.


Parental apathy? Yes so harmful! But what about a parent that insists that they are not appathic what so ever? This can be extremly harmful as well!
This subject had hit very close to home for me last year. I attempted to discuss the subject of an 10 year old family member's My Space membership to his parent.
I was told in no uncertain terms ( and I quote) that I was a "paranoid alarmist". I provided links and screenshots of the child's pages and of some of the child's so called "friends". Not enough proof??? All this mind you was after the parent was informed of a prior My Space acount created by the child. Yet the child was able (allowed) to surf alone and create a second My Space account.

I found this cavalier attitude to be quite alarming. Yes I may have attacked the parental abilities of said parent. But this child's My Space account had a "friend" whom had clickable banner ads to a pornographic
web site. I can not be sure that the child accessed the offensive content of the "friend's" personal MY Space page or the linked porn. But to me it was just to close for comfort. So I did not feel as if I should beat around the bush. The child's safety was more important than any adults feelings. IMHO I do not apologize and I'd do it all again in a heartbeat.

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Posted 30 January 2006 - 12:31 PM

Denial is another step. Since I read your first post I have added those sites to the blocked list in the Content Advisor. I have been using the Content Advisor with great effect and the blocking of downloads and installation of said. This was one of the reasons I moved to W2k for the kids.
I am not here to be thier friend or to be liked. I am here to make sure they grow up safe. If they become mad for it, so be it.
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Posted 31 January 2006 - 03:25 AM

The child's safety was more important than any adults feelings.

I'd like to ask about this "safety" but I guess it would be off topic. In my opinion you did the right thing warning the parent about their child's activities. But only that.
However thank you for the heads-up about Myspace. :thumbsup:

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Posted 31 January 2006 - 04:11 AM

Parents today have gone soft. They hardly pay attention to their kids or what they do. I mean look at the Hot Coffee scandal parents whent out and got their 12 and 14 year olds this game w/o paying attention to the content just to make their kids shut up. If I had kids I'd monitor them till they begged me to stop and then keep doing it. But I dont have kids. Nope I got roomates and their worse "Lemme use your computer to check my mail, Lemme use your computer to surf the Internet". Its almost like their begging me "Let me see if I can crash your new computer". A keylogger is comming to my computer and I will know if they crack my passwords (like i did my parents). My parents tried their darnedest to protect me but some parents arent even trying in my opinon.

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Posted 31 January 2006 - 11:05 AM

Parents today have gone soft. They hardly pay attention to their kids or what they do. I mean look at the Hot Coffee scandal parents whent out and got their 12 and 14 year olds this game w/o paying attention to the content just to make their kids shut up. If I had kids I'd monitor them till they begged me to stop and then keep doing it. But I dont have kids. Nope I got roomates and their worse "Lemme use your computer to check my mail, Lemme use your computer to surf the Internet". Its almost like their begging me "Let me see if I can crash your new computer". A keylogger is comming to my computer and I will know if they crack my passwords (like i did my parents). My parents tried their darnedest to protect me but some parents arent even trying in my opinon.


You make a good point, as have others who have replied to this topic.
I think it is the responsability of the parents to keep their kids safe. I have 3 teenagers, NONE of them have a computer in their bedrooms! They all share 1 computer, and that 1 computer is in the Living room. So noone can be online in private. And none of them are allowed to be online after 11pm. These are MY rules! I am the parent! And if they don't like it then that is just tough, it is not gonna change! In my opinion this is the way all parents should be. There are too many parents out there that use video game consoles, pc's, and DVD players as babysitters. And although I cannot change or tell people how to raise their kids, I can say that if something bad happens because you didn't pay attention to what your kids were doing....then it is your own d@mn fault! Don't blame technology, the parent should be in control! JMHO

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Posted 31 January 2006 - 02:06 PM

The child's safety was more important than any adults feelings.

I'd like to ask about this "safety" but I guess it would be off topic.


"Safety"? Off topic? Hardly. Safety concerns over children (minors) is the point of this topic.
You must also remember the child was only 10 years old.

'Predator's Playground'?
A Web safety expert offers tips for keeping teenagers and children safe on social-networking sites like MySpace.com


'Predator's Playground'?
'Predator's Playground'? - Page 2
'Predator's Playground'? - Page 3


Besides what ever happened to, teaching your children not to talk to strangers?

@ BlackSpyder & RaSkull
I applaud you parental concern and efforts toward the safe-gaurding of your children.

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Posted 31 January 2006 - 02:27 PM

I agree fully. I may not have any kids but blogs such as myspace do pose A bit of A threat. There are few options though that maybe you have not heard about. There is an option to only allow people on the member's friend list to view their blog. I Belive that this option should be manditory until they are 18 and that they should have A more valid age verification process. At the same time however, What ways do they have to do so? Also even after blocking myspace can they not go and find yet another blog? There are alot more out there that are simply not that popular, but when your kids find this out surely they too will skyrocket.

I use myspace myself, but mainly for music publicity purposes. I never even bothered to create an account until I recently heard that you can post your music there.


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Posted 31 January 2006 - 06:01 PM

i think this article is completely stupid. its much easier for a child to just go to google and search for "pornographic content" than go on myspace, yet i dont see any complaints about google being made?
And about some people wanting to keylog their kids and spy on them. thats just being overprotective. kids need some private space and thats crossing the line between caring for your child and spying.
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Posted 31 January 2006 - 06:14 PM

Im not picking sides at all here because myspace could change A few things, but yes, that is A good point. I am yet to see any "ponographic content" on myspace. I believe that all this hype is based off of isolated and rare occurences of these problems.


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Posted 31 January 2006 - 08:54 PM

Scarlett - In the example you gave, your concern for the safety of the child appeared to be based on the possible access to pornographic material via a friends page. You did not mention any reference to predatory behaviour.

I can not be sure that the child accessed the offensive content of the "friend's" personal MY Space page or the linked porn. But to me it was just to close for comfort.


I thought having "attacked the parental abilities of said parent" for allowing a ten year old possible access to porn amazingly presumptious. Warning the parent is entirely appropriate and I again applaud you for doing so. Whether or not the parents choose to heed your warning is none of your business.

The dangers of predatory behaviour is a different issue because it involves 'duty of care' and other legislation which may in certain circumstances override the parents right to control their childs access to media. It would be up to a court I imagine, rather than an individual, to determine what action was appropriate in what circumstances.

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Posted 31 January 2006 - 09:14 PM

Myspace has already been taken to court for such things and thus is why they now have the pointless age limit. But you're right: I wouldn't be the least bit supprised if I heard about them being involved in another lawsuit.


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Posted 31 January 2006 - 09:55 PM

See the interesting thing about this is that the generation that is taking care of the kids (The parents) didn't grow up with the internet and don't know as nearly as much about electronics as the children of today. I kind of laugh when I see my cousin who is 6 fix the TV (reprogram the remote) for his dad/mom.

Just wait until it's our turn. muhahaha those pesky kids don't know what is coming...

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Posted 31 January 2006 - 10:37 PM

I agree that parents should pay more attention to what their children are doing on the internet. I have a myspace, but everyone except 3 people, are people I go the school with. The other 3 are staff members from tech sites like here, and GTG. I have seen many people give away as much information as to what school they go to, and what sports they play, as well as their first and last name. I have almost no information at all on there, and the information I do have, isn't giving out my location, name, etc. I agree with Scarlett, I think the age requirement should be 18, instead of 14. Unfortunately though, young kids will still continue to sign up.

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