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Wedding invitation and being broke. What should I do?


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#1 raf96

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Posted 15 July 2011 - 08:11 AM

MY niece is getting married and I have absolutely no money... I Mean... I'm absolutely broke.
Now... I'm not that close to my niece (my brother's daughter) and I feel like I'm being invited as in ..."he should be invited".
My problem is... I'm broke... I can't put anything in "the envelope" and I know that by confirming my presence I will incur some additional costs to the newlyweds.
Sooo. should I simply decline the invitation (which might be received as a sign of disrespect, or should I go and be perceived as a cheapscake?

( I just hate the whole pre-wedding bull...)

I just need some honest opinions, so I can form my own.

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Posted 15 July 2011 - 08:26 AM

In this day and age and economic times I am sure they will understand. Put in there something that will say I am sorry but I am unable to send you gift, but when I can ill go get something later on. My gift to you for now is my moral support for you at the wedding.

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Posted 15 July 2011 - 08:26 AM

Hello,

IMO, if you can afford to attend the wedding (travel expenses and so forth), please do so. As for a gift - you may have something you own that the newlyweds may enjoy and which they could use. Or you could make something for them if you are skilled in that way. It doesn't necessarily take money to give a good gift.

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Posted 15 July 2011 - 09:19 AM

Can I say this with out offending? I am unsure of your Cuture on this?

I am a 64 year old Aussie, married three times.

Maybe it can help?

My first Marriage was just a simple one just her and I and two Witnesses in a Church. We just had a few Drinks after.

Second one was a Garden Wedding, but treated as a full on Reception, as above.

No one tallied up the presents, we were just happy for their gift of their Company, once invited.

Third one was exactly the same. Except We received a Picture from one Guest that just blew us just away. We never realised that it still existed and it made a very special moment for us.

Can I suggest thinking along those lines?

Edit: I still have that Picture of me as a 17 years old.

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My wife even did this to it

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Posted 15 July 2011 - 01:21 PM

Definitely go it you can.

I like OB's idea of maybe making her something.
That would have a very personal touch.
Maybe something as simple as a music or picture cd.

I think it is important to attend because she is family.
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Posted 15 July 2011 - 04:56 PM

I know at my wedding having an extra hand around to help with setup and tear down was as appreciated as any gifts. Perhaps just hang around afterwards and help clean up

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Posted 19 July 2011 - 09:03 AM

Thank you guys for all of your suggestions. So based on your advises I did confirm my presence at the wedding.
So once again thank you all for taking your time and helping me out.

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Posted 19 July 2011 - 09:11 AM

You are welcomed, Please let us know how it goes?

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There is a saying, "You just can't make a silk purse out of a sow's ear" it means "to be happy with what you have and not look for the impossible"......DD saying

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