<<When i reseated my ram i hooked up my esd wrist strap but forgot to wear it. so im hoping the failure is most likely ram failure than mobo failure.>>
I would not worry about the lack of said strap, as long as you were careful
. I bought one of those back in 1997, used it one time until I read an article about grounding myself as an alternative. I haven't shorted anything yet and it's been 14 years with plenty of fiddling around with motherboards, connections, RAM inside the computer case.
"Since all standard AC wiring includes a common ground, you used to be able to ground yourself by touching the case of your PC while it was switched off but still plugged into the wall outlet. However, since today's PCs have voltage flowing through their motherboards whenever they're plugged in (5 volts direct current are used for switching the PC on and off), it's all too easy to accidentally short something and zap your motherboard, without static being involved at all. That's why it's essential that PCs be unplugged when you work with them." Per http://www.pcworld.com/article/82184/avoid_static_damage_to_your_pc.html