If your system is set to download updates automatically but not install them automatically, they accumulate and you will be reminded about it at shutdown. If you choose to install, they should install and that will be that.
You can read how it works here:http://support.microsoft.com/kb/306525
I like to visit the MS WWW site once in a while using Internet Explorer (that part I don't like) and check the Tools, Windows Update and let it do it's thing using the Custom Update button and see what it reports about my current situation and make appropriate choices. Appropriate choices does not mean you have to update everything it offers. If you are not sure, ask.
It tells you what your current situation is and lets you change your settings, the feedback is better, you can see what is going on, decide what you want and don't want or never to hear about again. I told it never to remind me about IE8 again because I don't use IE except for this purpose, so don't care to upgrade - there is nothing in IE8 I need! Just because MS thinks you need something doesn't necessarily mean you do.
If your system seems to want to update every day, something is probably not quite right so visit the MS site and do a manual update and see what is going on and get yourself all caught up with the things you need/want. It might take some time to let it figure things out so be patient.
Edited by joseibarra, 23 December 2009 - 09:10 AM.