Posted 04 February 2008 - 06:58 PM
You are correct. I was smart enough to get divorced because of my son's welfare. I am not smart enough to end all non-child-related connections without my crutch. And I need to do that. My initial notes for my lawyer said, "This marriage is eroding my ability to take care of my son." I have the most beautiful son in the world! He is a delight. His father knows this, too. We are able to put aside our differences where the little guy is concerned. This is good. The problematic part is the romantic part, which the father will not let me end easily. It's very easy to pass judgment if you're not in my position, and I would be rolling my eyes and saying, stupid woman, just kick him out, if the stupid woman were not me. I am doing the best I can with what I have. And with that said, I need some help--and have identified it as that concrete proof. Right or wrong, that's what I think I need. And I have been moving step by step in this process and have gotten this far, and can see the light at the end of the tunnel. So...I guess I will try the Paraben thing. I thank everyone who's read this thread for your attention, and thanks to the respondents for your time. Your advice, though not computer-related, is both sound and germane. And again, I must mention, my little boy (he is 16 months old) is the best part of my life and I am so lucky to be his mom! (This makes it hard to shut out someone who also loves the little one desperately, unfortunately.) I am going to be a better mom when I can shut out a noxious in-house influence, but I need a boost to maintain my resolve. And did I mention I have the most awesome little boy?