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DSTM
The new breed of man here is called the METRO HUNK.On TV I watched a Documentary on the changing face of the New Breed.Men are having Facials,Waxes,Perms,Manicures incl Toe Nails,Wearing Makeup,LipGloss,some wear Mascara,Eye Shadow and put Moisture Cream on all the time.They spend as much time in front of the mirror as the Ladies.These are not Gender Benders,but normal guys, as they are seen later with their Girlfriends or their Wives and Children.I was shocked at what I saw.I am not a Yobbo and pay attention to my looks,but absolutely would refuse to come at this new trend,personally.
How do the Ladies and Men view this trend?.I would feel I was losing my Manly Image if I started useing all this crap.I use normal mens toiletries and that's where I draw the line.I guess I may be just plain old fashioned.Would women like their men to steal the Bathroom all the time,and do any of you men think you would follow this trend? tongue.gif
Appreciate any Opinions on this Subject.
tink536
I think if this makes some men feel good, then do it.
I saw a commercial for a show that featured Japanese men doing all those things and thought it was kinda weird.
I might have a problem with a man who took longer to get ready than me. lmfao.gif

My brother spends a lot of time in front of the mirror. He doesn't do the makeup and the manicures, but he pays a lot of attention to his appearance. I always asked him where was he going, to the prom? hysterical.gif
cowsgonemadd3
Guys wearing makeup is pathetic.

Trust me not all guys are like this. I mean I wear deoderent....
ambellina
i think its a little odd, because even women constantly worrying about their looks bother me. but hey, if guys want to make their feet pretty and wear shiny lip gloss, more power to them.
Darthy
I think we are returning to the time of Louis XIV of France where men use make up and long artificial hair for their beauty. tongue.gif Louis XIV
For me, this is a loss of time. But, like tink said, if this makes some men feel good, then do it. lmfao.gif
fozzie
That new breed is called overhere Metro sexual. Indeed taking care of themselves like a fireman takes care of his car. Wikipedia article on that. Let me phrase my opinion like this : Between black and white there is this nice colour called grey. My male perpspective is that women like the fact we take care of personal hygiene but not to much.. We have smell and look propperly and than it is ok, or am I terribly wrong
DSTM
QUOTE(fozzie @ Feb 26 2007, 03:06 AM) *
That new breed is called overhere Metro sexual. Indeed taking care of themselves like a fireman takes care of his car. Wikipedia article on that. Let me phrase my opinion like this : Between black and white there is this nice colour called grey. My male perpspective is that women like the fact we take care of personal hygiene but not to much.. We have smell and look propperly and than it is ok, or am I terribly wrong

GREY has never been a favourite colour of mine,Fozzie. tongue.gif
To me you should be Black or White.
Darthy
In my youth, when I was about 5 or 6 years old, my Grandfather had a friend that was an old military man.
Very often, my Grandfather take me with him to take a walk and we almost always found that old man.
When we found him he always catch me and like my Grandmother put me some good smell before we leave home, he turned itself toward my grandfather and always said the same thing:
"João (name of my Grandfather) you have to tell your wife that real men should smell like farts and powder. With these kind of smells she is turning your Grandson into a girl".
Excuse me DSTM, but I couldn't resist to tell this true story of my distant past. tongue.gif
Regards,
Darthy
MaraM
Darthy, love the story of the old man and his advise that "real men" should smell like "farts and powder" - I wonder if he was single by any chance? Because surely no woman would willingly take a guy like him on - grin! Eep!

I must say I would find it odd indeed if my beloved husband suddenly started to wear make-up as my personal preference is that men simply smell clean and good and are well-groomed.

But on the other hand, I can surely sympathize with a man who is born with fair eyelashes, etc - at least, we women have the option of adding mascara. Hmmm ... do think though that I'd prefer a man get his eye-lashes dyed rather than competing with me for the bathroom mirror with both of us putting make-up on.

In reality, though, I guess it's, for me, somewhere along the line with people having the nose and lips pierced - doesn't make them 'bad' people anymore than those that have their bodies covered with tattoos, so guess if men choose to do all this and it makes them feel better about themselves, what the heck. (After all, lots of men have veered away from the typical barber shop and have been getting their hair styled instead - yipee!!).
Orange Blossom
Frankly, I rarely ever use make-up. And if I can't do my hair in 5 minutes or less, it ain't getting done. I'm the kind of person that will get out of bed and be out the door on the way to work or school in less than a half-hour. My brother on the other hand spent copious amounts of time primping and preening when he was in high school. If the car windows were open he'd complain that the wind was messing up his hair, just like Mom did. I think most make-up makes people look ridiculous and fake unless they are on stage. I don't think the use of make-up has anything to do with masculinity or femininity.

For what it's worth, everyone has both masculine and feminine qualities. I think it is detrimental to society to deny this, and that people need to accept both these qualities in everyone.

Ooo! Didn't Mom get mad when I would put on Dad's Old Spice or one of his other sweet-smelling colognes. I haven't found a 'woman's' perfume yet that I liked. If I want to put scent on, I still use one of Dad's colognes or else I use an essential oil.

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ambellina
QUOTE(Orange Blossom @ Feb 25 2007, 01:38 PM) *
Ooo! Didn't Mom get mad when I would put on Dad's Old Spice or one of his other sweet-smelling colognes. I haven't found a 'woman's' perfume yet that I liked. If I want to put scent on, I still use one of Dad's colognes or else I use an essential oil.

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oh, i'm the same way! arent those scents much more comforting than womens perfume! perfumes usually make me sneeze, but i love men's cologne.
DSTM
When I saw this Guy having a bikini wax and then having his butt waxed,I cracked up.I couldn't believe what I was seeing.I believe a guy should look his best at all times,but I think there is a limit.Only ever had 2 colognes,"Old Spice" and now,"Tabac" Original.My wife uses "Red Door" by Elizabeth Arden.The only womens perfume,I really like.All the ones I have smelt always gives me a headache within minutes because to me they are too overpowering and sickly.With "Red Door" I absolutely love it. thumbup2.gif

EDIT. "OPIUM" by Yves Saint Laurent, is not bad either,IMO.
MaraM
Ouch just thinking about a bikini wax, male or female!

It's funny about scents and how some people hate certain perfumes and love others - and I can surely relate to those that get smashing headaches from certain ones. 'Poison' (spelling?) is the worse for me - poor sinuses take an instant beating.

And even odder how a certain perfume or cologne smells wonderful on one person and positively stinks on another. (I've worn Shalimar for over 30 years, yet when a friend tried it - well, there wasn't really a polite word for how she smelled - gentle smile).
Orange Blossom
Aye, yes. Everybody's body chemistry is different and thus will react differently with the chemicals in the scents. In fact, I've observed with some folks that a scent that was wonderful on them some years before now smells simply awful.

I eat lots of garlic and onions, so those oils will interact with any scent I put on.
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Waxing one's behind? Ouch! Was that guy a model or what? He must have had a hot seat for a while. w00t.gif

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boopme
I look at it like this. I love the way woman smell,it's interesting and erotic. Not sure if that's from spending an awful lot of time in gyms. They're are like fresh air. I use colognes and the wife tells me not to color the few greys I sprouted on my sideburns.

I've seen on the news also where more men are getting breast reduction surgery (man boobs). I don't think I would go for the makeup, lip gloss,waxing route (tho some guys backs could use it). I don't think I'd feel like me with all that on. I'd feel like Halloween.

Once in High School at a wrestling tounament ..I put minced garlic on my back before I went to the mat. hysterical.gif
Wildabeast
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having his butt waxed
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I have pretty strong opinons on this subject and probably should not voice them.... But I agree with you DSTM.I would never do anything like that crap...
It's not.....Normal??? blink.gif
DSTM
QUOTE(Wildabeast @ Feb 26 2007, 08:00 PM) *
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having his butt waxed
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I have pretty strong opinons on this subject and probably should not voice them.... But I agree with you DSTM.I would never do anything like that crap...
It's not.....Normal??? blink.gif

Agreed,of course it's not normal.I asked 2 of my friends today,and 1 said he shaves and waxes.YUK w00t.gif
I can understand if somebody had long back and shoulder hair,that waxing may be an option.
When you see somebody at the Beach,covered from Head to Foot in Black hair,I think they look like Gorillas.
Waxing for me is not something I would ever consider,and besides I don't like that sort of Pain. tongue.gif
nn23
hmmm, normality guys, we are media slaves (not refering to any individuals but we=human race). The concept of being "manly" is just as much an image portrayl that is followed as the metrosexual male look, it is little more than functionality and tradition that causes masculinity to encompass whatever form it takes according to the needs of that social system. I guess its when the functional role of the male changes (e.g job, class) that new horizons and bounderies enter his perspective for him to explore, whilst there are unspoiled tribal civilisations that all conform to their masculine ideal of piercings and whatnot because there is no change in their functions and social structures for hundreds of years.


ha ha i personally have this weird niggle with men doing their eyebrows lmfao.gif it consumes me he hehe and i'm not nice when something niggles me, the other night i ruined an episode of a new cheap british TV fictive dinosaur action series called Primevil because i just CANT STAND the "manly hero" character! his eyebrows are SOOOO waxed!!! I just dont understand why a bush safari type (which is the character he plays) would do such a thing? i think its a political correct thing to tackle discrim against metrosexuals for bein viewed as femenin? duno, but MEN WAXING EYEBROWS SERIOUSLY IRRITATES ME!!! Bring back eugenics i say! hysterical.gif , that'd sort thew problem out! thumbup.gif If they've had it done its the first thing i notice! hysterical.gif I'm getting wound up as i type ha ha ha, the only thing that saves me in these situations is seein the funny side,...i mean, wound up by WAXED eyebrows? he he what am i like??? crazy.gif tongue.gif
BYE! wink.gif thumbup2.gif
Darthy
The new concept of masculinity:
A metrosexual male


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Asmo
Personal hygiene is important to me as a guy but I would draw the line at make-up...lol. The only thing I find in the list of items mentioned that I would do is the manicure. I see nothing wrong with having my fingernails done professionally to look good. No polish or anything like that but when dressed for a fancy night out why let bad fingernails and cuticles ruin the rest of the image.
MaraM
Yipee, love to see men with buffed fingernails. And your right, Asmo - image includes our hands and as my father would say, "Check a man's shoes" - gentle grin.

Eep, that photo is 'interesting' to say the least, Darthy ... think he needs a lesson on how to apply make-up as it appears he has foundation 'caked' - ugh.

Out of curiousity, I wonder how many women would truly find a man appealing if he wore all the make-up, etc.
boopme
Actually that's a photo of a political news correspondent. I can't remember his name..Cameron or something. TV people as do actors need to wear some make so they look better on the screen. I feel that is a different category or situation.
Orange Blossom
QUOTE(DSTM @ Feb 26 2007, 04:19 AM) *
I can understand if somebody had long back and shoulder hair,that waxing may be an option.
When you see somebody at the Beach,covered from Head to Foot in Black hair,I think they look like Gorillas.


I like fur. By the way, blondes have a lot of hair; it's just not as noticeable. My experience has been, on the rare occasions when I've done hair 'removal' is that then I get ingrown hair, and then the hair follicles get infected. OUCH!! I'll keep my fur thank-you. Besides, it helps keep me warm. I do pull out the whiskers from my chin though.
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To pick up on a thought of MaraM's, but in the inverse: I wonder how many men actually find all that make-up on a woman's face attractive? One thing my brother and I agreed on: A good make-up job should not be noticeable.

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DSTM
QUOTE(Orange Blossom @ Mar 1 2007, 05:00 PM) *
QUOTE(DSTM @ Feb 26 2007, 04:19 AM) *

I can understand if somebody had long back and shoulder hair,that waxing may be an option.
When you see somebody at the Beach,covered from Head to Foot in Black hair,I think they look like Gorillas.


I like fur. By the way, blondes have a lot of hair; it's just not as noticeable. My experience has been, on the rare occasions when I've done hair 'removal' is that then I get ingrown hair, and then the hair follicles get infected. OUCH!! I'll keep my fur thank-you. Besides, it helps keep me warm. I do pull out the whiskers from my chin though.
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To pick up on a thought of MaraM's, but in the inverse: I wonder how many men actually find all that make-up on a woman's face attractive? One thing my brother and I agreed on: A good make-up job should not be noticeable.

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In the Quote you pulled,Orange Blossom I was referring to People on the beach,that to me look revolting.
If I looked like some of these Gorillas,I wouldn't be seen dead without a shirt on.The link below gives an example of the People that in my mind,waxing would indeed be an option.
When you said your fur helps keep you warm,you would need a lot of fur to keep you warm,believe me.
My imagination got the better of me for a moment. tongue.gif

http://www.haydennet.com/backhair/reduced_DSCN0233.jpg
Orange Blossom
QUOTE(DSTM @ Mar 1 2007, 02:41 AM) *
In the Quote you pulled,Orange Blossom I was referring to People on the beach,that to me look revolting.


I know. But, I don't find that revolting at all. By the way, my arms and legs are just as furry as that guy's back, but blonde. And yes, it does help keep my legs warmer. Not as much as, let's say, nice thick rabbit fur would, but still warmer. I know as I used to remove my leg hair, and when I quit doing that I discovered that my legs don't get as cold in winter. I also don't get sunburned as easily because the fur helps protect my skin.

Make-up ~ an image driven industry fighting nature. In my opinion that is.

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BlackSpyder
It worries me. I am a man i take care of my body (2 showers a day Grease doesnt like to come off) I shave when the mood hits me, I clip my nails what more can you ask.
My roommate on the other hand (read my Girlfriends friend not mine) is "Bi"-sexual (laughs at the though. there anit but 2 sides to this street male or female) and does all this and other even less masculine things (like undergarments) and frankly he recives alot of torment from the Redneck in me (which is most of me)

I have no problem with wanting to look nice and some men have to wear makeup (burn victims and such) and I used to have hair I had to spend alot more time in the mornings fixing it. But there is such a thing as taking it too far!!!

BTW on the the subject of masculinity Superglue works very well for liquid stitches
Asmo
This hit home today...I was in the grocery store yesterday and being the first part of the month welfare checks must of arrived. The "great unwashed" were out in strength and the temps yesterday were up a bit...the oder of some of these people brought tears to my eyes. I was poor for a good part of my life but being poor is no excuse for not bathing!

As you can see I believe in bathing no matter the time of year or weather....lol...and yes that is me, the things I will do on a dare....

Orange Blossom
Brrr!!! cold.gif cold.gif cold.gif

Regular bathing becomes much more difficult if folks don't have access to water, and there is only so much one can accomplish in a public restroom. Washing clothes is problematic if folks don't have a change of clothing.
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By the way, skirts used to be traditional men's wear. Also consider, judges and priests still wear robes as do Ph.D. folks in their 'degree' get-up. I have pictures of my grandfather, born in 1890, and his brothers wearing dresses as young children. This was normal. Boys were much older when they were fitted for their first pair of trousers.

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nn23
Yeah, i guess the perceptions of masculinity change with time and class.

BLIMEY DSTM, thats aloda hair! hysterical.gif clapping.gif

I remember reading an article in the paper about a VERY rare genetic defect that these two twin boys have (they're grown up now i think) where they were basically covered from head to foot in hair a bit like that man, except it looked a bit more softer and covered their faces and hands COMPLETELY!, not a place of bare skin or hair line or nothing!

Apparantly they earn quite a-lot of money as trapeze artists now, a duo act. I have to say, when i saw the pictures of them i actually found them quite atractive wink.gif crazy.gif .

Different strokes though i spose...strokes hysterical.gif ged it? laugh.gif ...

...in saying that, the picture in the link certainly wasnt pretty....hmmm, but curious though dry.gif smile.gif
tink536
OMG DSTM, thought that was a werewolf! hysterical.gif
MaraM
Sat here shivering just looking at the photo of you in the snow filled tub, Asmo! Brrrrrr! Hope you had a hot-tub to leap into immediately after!

Re men in skirts ... my family wore them in Scotland and undoubtedly they were more sensible to wear at the time than trousers. One problem I can see with men starts to wear skirts now - so many men seem to have betters legs than women!! smile.gif

Hmm... re 'lizard man' - okay, I concede that some women obviously do find him attractive ... but... if one gave birth to a baby identical to this, somehow I think it would be thought of as a 'freak of nature' - gentle smile.
nn23
IWOOO lizard man...NO WAY!!!!! he he he hysterical.gif

hes just a BIT rare whistling.gif laugh.gif that other guy underneith though "Mr ohm" i liiike smile.gif
DSTM
QUOTE(nn23 @ Mar 3 2007, 01:50 PM) *
Yeah, i guess the perceptions of masculinity change with time and class.

BLIMEY DSTM, thats aloda hair! hysterical.gif clapping.gif

I remember reading an article in the paper about a VERY rare genetic defect that these two twin boys have (they're grown up now i think) where they were basically covered from head to foot in hair a bit like that man, except it looked a bit more softer and covered their faces and hands COMPLETELY!, not a place of bare skin or hair line or nothing!

Apparantly they earn quite a-lot of money as trapeze artists now, a duo act. I have to say, when i saw the pictures of them i actually found them quite atractive wink.gif crazy.gif .

Different strokes though i spose...strokes hysterical.gif ged it? laugh.gif ...

...in saying that, the picture in the link certainly wasnt pretty....hmmm, but curious though dry.gif smile.gif

'NN23',Is this what you find attractive?
If you say yes,I know where your tastes are. hysterical.gif

Check this out.

http://www.quasi-modo.net/Hair.html
Orange Blossom
Is that feller in the top left corner wearing a fake nose? It sure looks like it. Hmm. Looks like his hair isn't really legit. either. I was in stage costuming for awhile. Maybe he's in costume for the part of the Beast in Beauty and the Beast? I can't really say I find that one attractive, but the one with all the back hair is another story. smile.gif

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nn23
Give im a trim here and there at a posh salon and he'd be GEORGEOUS!!!! hysterical.gif hysterical.gif hysterical.gif

EDIT: awww the Alice doherty ones really sad in a way, i hope she had a happy life...and OB i dont think it is fake you know, all the other pictures in the links were kinda similer and its also kinda what these boys looked like except they were of some sort of colombian origin and so their hair type and features kinda worked nicely with it m hm thumbup2.gif , it looks MAAAD though dun it? hair EVEN growing out of their nose! BLIMEY laugh.gif
Orange Blossom
I checked the properties of the picture and the alternate text for the picture is:
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Stephan Bibrowski as "Lionel"
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Well, he's not in costume, rather his hairiness was caused by something called Congenital generalized hypertrichosis as I discovered from this site that discusses 'werewolves' http://www.timberwolf.org/html/werewolf.html . If you look in paragraph "Werewolf Genetics", you'll find that this guy was one of a number to have this condition. And here is a site that discusses the gene, or one of the genes, responsible for it: http://www.accessexcellence.org/WN/SUA05/wolfman.html

So the feller wasn't in costume after all.

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nn23
cool nice one, i go looky laugh.gif ...yeah, i knew it was some genetic mutation or another from the article about the boys just couldnt remember what? NICE ONE OB!!!! clapping.gif thumbup.gif

I might venture into the web and find a picture of these trapeze artist boys too smile.gif

thumbup2.gif nn23


edit: mmm, and heres another article about it if anyones interested?

http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=htt..._GB212%26sa%3DX

still havnt found those trapeze artist boys tho
nn23
a-ha! i found iiiit clapping.gif

ok heres a couple of links thumbup2.gif


Article about them
http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=htt..._GB212%26sa%3DG


Theres a gallery here at the bottom
http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=htt..._GB212%26sa%3DG

I duno, i think theres something pretty hot about them smile.gif ...

Its funny to think that back in the olden days being called wolfboy would be oppressive but now their like "the big men" because of it, i think thats coool thumbup.gif
boopme
Maybe they're related to Wookies

http://swg.stratics.com/content/lore/perso...s/chewbacca.gif
nn23
YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!! clapping.gif

Thats IT!!! thats probably the root of my attraction!!! i've ALWAYS had a thing for CHEWIE! laugh.gif

HEs the PERfect?.....Male!!! smile.gif tongue.gif thumbup2.gif

hysterical.gif NICE ONE boopme, i now know WHY thumbup.gif
Darthy
I think my friend Chewbacca has a member of his family on planet Earth, see:

He is the famous Big Foot. lmfao.gif lmfao.gif
I think he is "the most" in Masculinity. hysterical.gif hysterical.gif
At least, like nn would say, he is "blimey" enough!!! hysterical.gif hysterical.gif
nn23
ohhh yeah? You got his number? hysterical.gif

thumbup.gif nn23
Darthy
hysterical.gif hysterical.gif Here are 04:07 AM of Feb 05, and I have to sleep.
Tomorrow uppps... today, we will continue this funny conversation, I hope nn. lmfao.gif lmfao.gif
Regards,
Darthy
nn23
laugh.gif NIGHHhhhhT Darthy hysterical.gif thumbup.gif

NICE ONE!!! nn23
nn23
hmmm, I just had a MAAAD thought whilst in a cringe at Darthy's lipstick wearing metro man.

Seeing as we've explored masculinity within this topic and been looking at all these hairy men and whatnot, what about the other side and where male make-up comes from.

i think men in make up has perhaps quite masculine origins actually. Tribesmen have worn make-up to make themselves look right for the occasion for centuries, and even tattoos and tattooed men are perhaps more related to the metro man than we realise.

Just a thought, thats all wink.gif nn23
DSTM
QUOTE(nn23 @ Mar 5 2007, 05:03 PM) *
hmmm, I just had a MAAAD thought whilst in a cringe at Darthy's lipstick wearing metro man.

Seeing as we've explored masculinity within this topic and been looking at all these hairy men and whatnot, what about the other side and where male make-up comes from.

i think men in make up has perhaps quite masculine origins actually. Tribesmen have worn make-up to make themselves look right for the occasion for centuries, and even tattoos and tattooed men are perhaps more related to the metro man than we realise.

Just a thought, thats all wink.gif nn23

Next thing you will be telling me Cross Dressing is OK. crazy.gif hysterical.gif
nn23
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what forrr a man or a woman? laugh.gif thumbup.gif

wow new thought, men not being able to wear womens clothing is a BLATENT form of sexism towards men

MANS RIGHTS MANS RIGHTS .....BURN THOSE BOXERS BOYS!!! clapping.gif
Orange Blossom
I think nn23 has some excellent points about the origin of makeup.

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Throughout the history of Western dress, women have frequently borrowed elements of men’s clothing. Examples of men appropriating women’s dress, however, are rare.

http://www.metmuseum.org/special/se_event....AB57B724C97A%7D

Some pics from the exhibit.

http://www.metmuseum.org/special/Bravehear...irts_images.htm

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nn23
ha haaaa, now if a fine specimin like that came along, i wouldnt care what he was wearing he he laugh.gif


CHEERS OB NICE ONE!!!:thumbsup: thumbup.gif

Darthy
QUOTE(nn23 @ Mar 5 2007, 04:04 AM) *
ohhh yeah? You got his number? hysterical.gif

thumbup.gif nn23

Nope...Why?
Did you want it? hysterical.gif hysterical.gif
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